Wednesday, July 24, 2013

POWERFUL TIPS TO HANDLE POWERLESS SITUATIONS

                    POWERFUL TIPS TO HANDLE POWERLESS SITUATIONS


               POWERFUL TIPS TO HANDLE POWERLESS SITUATIONS



   1.  LEAVE NEGATIVE ATTITUDE
Don’t loose positive attitude. Don’t worry about the present situations. Be bold and take gallant and gritty decisions to change the course of action. Be determined and stick to basics to reach your goal.

2.     DON’T LEAVE YOUR PURSUIT



How hard your goal, keep going. That is the secret of success. Keep going your trails. Don’t stop your journey and trails as the journey is tough and rough. It doesn’t matter how slow you go as long as you don’t stop. If your path is correct you can reach the destination successfully. Your trust in your destination is more vital irrespective of the hardships and obstacles.

3.     STAY IN GOOD COMPANY



The better quality of relationship as we maintain gives us the better quality of joy and happiness. Best Employees and Best friends are always greatest assets to anybody. Don’t treat them as passing clouds. It is always important that the quality of relationship that survives for a long time. Good company helps to develop network. So now it is considered as important as wealth now. Friends are only take care, share joys and sorrows. They are trustful and loyal. They respect the ideals and goals of us even when the situations are getting tough.

4. EVERY THING COMES WITH PRICE

Nothing can be achieved without price as it may be in the form of Sweat, Time, hard work or money or intellectual property. Achievement comes with the price only. Some things are costlier than others relatively in the Global Market Economy. Great works or achievements are really hard to get or build but it is very easy to spoil a creative or purposeful or business opportunity. It is extremely easy to withdraw from an activity than love and stick until get it. Hating, saying Excuses, negative thinking, despair are all acts of Cowardice. It is determination, hard work and perseverance will give better results than hating the people, work and the situation.  Most of the time many people struck between two options like polar contradictions and feel confusion in selecting the right alternative. The Truth is that they can’t select both ways. One can’t become a great scholar with out reading and digesting the essence of the great books or great experiences or grasp or gain knowledge in the conference of the intellectuals.

5. BEST PREPARATION

If you prepare well one day your chance will come. If you are failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail in your task or goal. The one who prepares very well can best serve the situation than others. The champions toil hard in the all the seasons night and day. They practice hours together with lot of patience and endevarance and hope. They spend years in practice and thinking different approaches. The winning performance is the demonstration of their Champion Attitude. The Victorious performances come with spectacular showing of positive attitude and exhibition of correct talent at right time and keep continuing that performance irrespective of situations without saying any excuses. The winning attitude comes with Best preparation only. The Success comes with our best previous preparation only. It is always best to have our tools sharpen before starting the work. Good Luck comes and blesses us with our preparation only.

6. LEAVE FEAR OF FAILURE (ATYCHIPHOBIA)

The only way to change your reaction to failure is to challenge the beliefs that create it. The best way to change is to transform and alter belief that shapes and moulds us. The best way to modify the beliefs is to change the thoughts. Failure is always very big learning experience. It helps to reassess the cause and reasons for the failure and the way to learn to go again to reach the goal. Failure is always a self belief that breeds the seeds to atmosphere of defeat. It is always a warning signal to change the course of action and keep focus on the right direction. Some times negative experiences also lead to this fear of failure. Some people subconsciously undermined their strengths to avoid the failures. Self sabotage and low self esteem are some of the reasons for the above thoughts.

It is only belief that resists moving ahead. We don’t find a single person in life that doesn’t face a single experience of failure in life. Failure lessons are very important because they keep away making the same mistakes again. Failures are common in life. Failure lessons help you to mould you as strong person in life. Some times valuable insight comes only after a series of failures and  help to develop alternative plans in the crisis time or back up plans and thinking of different probable outcomes of a decision.

7. SET CLEAR GOALS

Goals show a sense of direction and path to our passions and indicate where you want to go. Try to split your goals into smaller steps. Take one small step at a time and build your confidence and complete your task successfully.  One has to understand ones core desires, ground realities, resources, strengths and identify correct path way to take right road to success. Getting every thing can’t be achieved alone. Taking the cooperation from like minded people will keep you ahead of others. The sky is the limit to achieve goals. One has to identify the obstacles in advance before starting the work or any new project. Be honest in writing down the weaknesses. Prepare plan to achieve goals. Be realistic in preparing the plans and put them into action. If one thing doesn’t work, do not give up, use plan B to accomplish it.

8. TOIL HARD FOR CONTINUOUS IMPROVEMENT.

Success stays with continuous improvement only. The one who continuously improve in order to redress fluctuations, disturbances and imbalances will get success and keep them in success for a long period of time. Kaizan School of management suggests many ways to improve it. It involves continuous effort for ameliorate and enhance effectiveness, improving collective work experience, identify and delegate work to the creative and expert people and ability forecast the changes in the trends. Some times thinking and acting ahead of others with use of foresight helps to take best actions than others. One who endeavors to create plans and procedures to accomplish the tasks and recruit and instruct others to assist in the work and gather information regarding your task and eliminate unnecessary and waste activities and try to prevent the problems in advance and make suitable action plans will get desired results. Try to develop an attitude to solve the problems rather than stay with the problem. Don’t be part of the problem, be a part of the solution. Don’t say excuse for wasting time and not doing the work. Don’t be caught up with too much planning. Thinking and spending more time on planning and not taking any action is known as Paralysis of analysis. Planning shouldn’t be rigid, it should be motivating and always need and scope for the improvement in doing. Whatever work you do, do with more than 100 % commitment and love the work. Put all your efforts and focus and give your very best. You don’t need to repent in the future.

9. EVALUATE OUT COMES

Real life is different from cinema life and fiction life. Real Life costs more when make mistakes. Real life is really hard and tough. Every action has consequences whether it is good or bad. A good action may give better results at later point of time and a bad action may give bad results at later point of time. People are unable to evaluate their consequences of their actions.  Anger and emotions spoil decision making process in most of the cases. So keep them in check. In the wake of Globalization every body is considering ones actions, attitudes, attention and sharing of responsibility.  A popular say from Zen states that to act with out thinking and doing with out effort or in other words there is no Try.

Consequences are results of our actions. It is like throwing a stone into a calm lake which creates ripples. Consequences may be good or bad. If the consequences are good, repeat the same actions to get desired results. If the consequences are bad, don’t duplicate the mistakes and identify the reasons for failures and try to identify the potential and correct alternatives to get the best possible decisions. Believe the popular Carpenter saying “Measure twice, cut ones”. It is like thinking before acting. It is shear waste to lament about the past mistakes. Many people have a lot of goals but don’t realize what they truly want in life. Most of them have confusion in identifying their True Passion and goal in life.

10. LEARNING FROM OTHERS MISTAKES



There is a say “Learn from the mistakes of others, you can’t live long enough to make them all yourself “. ‘A Dog returns to his own vomit, so a fool repeats his folly’. All men make mistakes, but only wise men learn from others mistakes. Bernard Shah says “I made mistakes but not the same”. A person who faces failures always means he is repeating the same mistakes. He doesn’t learn from his follies. Nobody is perfect. We can’t take back our mistakes or past. If we are wise we can take better decisions from others mistakes. We can learn from every one whether he is a good or bad. A good person or a successful person life teaches us what to do in a correct way where as a bad person or an unsuccessful person life tells us what not to do. Every Bodies Life is a story which teaches lessons to us.

11. ACCEPT ADJUSTMENTS IN LIFE



The present life became more busy and materialistic. Every body is busy. Financial issues became predominant and every thing is revolving around it. The demands of the society and peer are mounting high and take over the routine. The balancing of life is missing. Every one is facing problems of adjustments in family, social, organisational and economic spheres.  Too many goals and ambitions create tensions and anxiety in the mind which in turn leads to panic also. Physical and Emotional balance is also important in life. Heavy load of works, multi tasking, over whelming activities, frequent burn outs etc also cause a lot of pressure and stress. Relationships with others are getting strained and confronting with diseases is becoming common. ‘Learn to cherish present situations, take deep breath, enjoy the nature, laughing, walking, doing some exercises, enjoying music, sharing pleasant experiences and memories etc., gives immense relief.

Are you keeping reasonable and achievable goals? Are you on the correct track and right course of action?  What are the measures are you taking to clear your obstructions? How are you co-coordinating your resources, people, and time to pursue your goals?

Joy comes only when we make serious adjustments in life with peers, work atmosphere, family and in society. The people who try to learn how to adjust with others will live happily and comfortably than others. They are smart. One has to remember that nothing is granted. When goals are not fulfilled, don’t adjust the goals, adjust your action plans.

KESIRAJU RAMPRASAD

EDUCATIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST

kesirajuramprasad@gmail.com

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